Terrific Two.

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It has been too long since I wrote on my blog. A lot has taken place in that period of absence. My son is now two years old! We have come along way my son and I, from trouble feeding to great feeding. The milestones have been amazing, to say the least. Every time someone heard my son is about to turn two they would sigh, smile and say 'brace yourself, mama'. I always gave myself a talk where I said to myself 'you got this! He's not going to be terrible'.

It is bad manners to call people names so please don't call your child terrible..they are listening for sure and those words may hurt them. My son has a few tantrum episodes and I have done my best to remain calm through the fits. It is not always easy to stay calm, you have to be intentionally calm. speak. Think positive and do try to go to your child's world rather than expect him/her to come to your world. You will find the bad days are outnumbered by the good days.


We are now having to guess less and less what he's trying to say. He is definitely communicating better than he was a few months back. It amuses us how he pronounces some words but we do clap and encourage him to say it more... He will surely learn to say it right with time.He loves to dance and he is now having better movement as he's stable and he's always looking to make someone smile and clap for him.


He is certainly much more interested in helping us around the house. instead of getting irritated at how messy he can get while helping, expect the mess and gently encourage him to help clean it up as well. you are both going to enjoy working around the house together. As a parent, you've got to be intentionally patient with your toddler.


I have learned to look at things through my son's eyes more often rather than through mine and this perspective has made me experience terrific twos rather than terrible twos. I know we just turned but I am determined to maintain the attitude through the entire journey. I am definitely growing as he grows and I like how my outlook on things has changed. Just like you, your child will have some bad days, don't label him /her terrible because of their bad days.



He does throw a tantrum once in a while and sometimes I want to scream at him to stop it. I however always summon all my willpower to remain firm and calm. Surely with all the chaos going on in his mind and with his emotions, adding my own frustrations will not help at all. As a parent, I have learned a child will live up to the standards you set for him/her. A negative attitude and negative thoughts will yield negative results.


Good luck to all parents out there who have two-year-old kids. Remember to be intentionally calm in your reaction to their outbursts.
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